I am Guacy Barnes, I am a mother of two amazing beings who inspire my daily life.

I am a Buddhist practitioner, an animal lover and a humanitarian.  I believe in second chances, love, kindness, effort and integrity. I think everyone desires to be loved, accepted, seen, and understood despite our actions or mistakes.

Many of us unfortunately hinder our true potential by engaging in behaviors that prevent genuine connections and love. In my case, I've encountered various forms of adversity throughout my life, enduring certain types of abuse prior to marriage. However, the most profound and enduring trauma stemmed from the "ongoing" psychological, relational, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse inflicted by my spouse's hidden pornography and sex addiction, which he concealed for 16 years. Despite my unwavering commitment to fulfilling roles as a loving, caring mother, wife, friend, and partner provided no shield against the shattering impact of ongoing relational abuse and trauma.

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The impact of relational betrayal was the most devastating experience of my life. Everything I believed was a façade; the revelation of his double life traumatized me, eroding my self-trust, worth, purpose, meaning, and worse my reality. The awareness of all I had suffered and felt throughout the years, the revelation of all the lies, manipulations, ongoing daily gaslighting, and hidden behaviors, stripped away my reality and tainted my heart and soul.

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Determined to salvage the marriage, over six years, we pursued an extensive range of recovery, dedicating thousands of hours and dollars to comprehensively learn about addiction, trauma, and emotional abuse on a daily basis. This included, but was not limited to, attending meetings, 12-step programs, delving into personal, couples, family, and group therapy weekly, workshops, seminars, webinars, consuming a vast collection of resources, books, podcasts, and investing an unimaginable amount of time processing within a recovery network.

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Despite all the effort, and devotion to healing, I realized I had entirely lost meaning and purpose in life. Nothing I did, learned, or fought for fixed my marriage or the emptiness I felt inside. My spouse continued to struggle, leaving me deprived of love, connection, support, and emotional safety daily. During a time of utter hopelessness, powerlessness, and solitude, a serious car accident reshaped my life, granting me a second chance and revealing choices I hadn't seen before.

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Not long after, my son narrowly escaped becoming paraplegic from a pelvis-shattering fall, and a year later, my husband was diagnosed with Schizoid Personality Disorder, a disorder with no cure, progressive nature, and challenging treatment due to delusions related to it's belief system.  My goodness, now what? Amid overwhelming relational chaos, extreme emotional neglect, and abuse, these events compelled me to reassess my life.

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While I wish all this hadn't been the catalyst, it prompted me to transform my life and find a purpose.

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I aimed to give meaning to my trauma, discovering my purpose—to aid silent sufferers of emotional abuse and relational neglect in finding their purpose. A quote by Jim John resonated: "For things to change, you have to change," and "You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight." To achieve my goals and fulfill my vision, I was intentional about my personal growth, and it transformed my life.

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Since then, my life has shifted, and I awaken with urgency to live fully. You can find meaning and purpose, not in others, but within yourself. Once you find your essence, everything aligns harmoniously with your nature.